Burning Bridges is for amateurs. It’s primitive. Low-level stuff.
Spiritually advanced people do not just pour on the gasoline, light a match and walk away with their back to the flames.
They know it isn’t the right thing to do. They know it’s bad for the soul.
I used to pride myself on the bridges I burned. I thought it made me independent and cool.
It was baked into my mind by media manipulators that it was a rebellious, bad-boy move.
“Yeah, I just walked out of that job and flipped the guy off, so what.”
“Who gives a fuck about that class, I don’t care what the professor thinks.”
“That girl wasn’t that pretty anyways and I’m busy with other stuff, I’ll just ignore her.”
This was my internal monologue for most of my youth. It seemed like the convenient way out.
I was dead wrong, just like I was in so many other aspects of my materialist, atheistic life.
Even the worst situations in life can be navigated with higher consciousness and the collateral damage can be controlled. There does not ever need to be a fire.
When you burn it to the ground, you reinforce the idea that you can’t follow through.
You admit to yourself that your spirit can’t handle adversity and it’s better to just run away from conflict.
When you cause unnecessary pain, confusion and distress, you are doing yourself no favors.
That is a weak, reactive and inhuman way to go through life.
Spiritual Warriors are STRONG, PROACTIVE and SUPERHUMAN.
Obviously a violent situation calls for immediate escape. The aggressor will likely end up dead or imprisoned anyways.
But if you’re in an unpleasant living situation, job or relationship, you can let go far more tactfully and responsibly. It just takes a little bit more time and effort.
I have walked out of jobs, ghosted women and failed to uphold my end of the bargain in many situations.
Let me explain why this is poor spiritual practice, and why you need to let your bridges stand.
The Devil Wants You To Burn Bridges, Not Build Them
There is nothing more gratifying for the forces of evil than acts of destruction. Especially in the spiritual dimension. Burning bridges is like fueling the Armies of Evil for War.
Satan finds far more satisfaction in tearing apart human relationships than any blown up building or smashed car window.
That’s because a real bridge can be rebuilt bigger and better. Spiritual ties are far more difficult to repair.
You end up dragging that weight around with you for life. Not worth it.
Be smarter than that. Be above the petty vengeance that dictates most of society.
Even if you think you are immune to guilt, as I once believed, you know that there is a lingering sensation that you were in the wrong.
When I walked out of a job at a grocery store as a teenager, I had a brief burst of empowerment and even bragged about it to my friends.
I made all the justifications I needed in my mind that I did the right thing, and the people at the store were the losers.
It only took a few hours after that thrill wore off to realize that I had made a bunch of mistakes myself.
After distancing myself from the situation I saw how many different, better ways I could have left, besides just storming out.
What I experienced was a short spell of demonic influence.
I gave into the Devil without even noticing. I was tempted by a tiny power trip and took the bait like a fool.
Think I learned my lesson as a teenager? Nope!
I did the same thing in college, a number of times. I quit a sports team on short notice, backed out of academic responsibilities and cancelled plans with people who trusted me. My misery continued as I degraded my own spirit with rampant bridge burning.
Even after graduation, I kept repeating the same cycle.
I found myself in office jobs I hated with people who made me want to puke. I quit abruptly each time.
I went on dates with women who looked good on the surface but had deeply corrupted souls. One of us broke it off quick, every time.
I self-medicated with drugs and booze to make it all more bearable in the short term, but unsustainable in the long run.
It wasn’t until my late twenties when I began to analyze all the ways I went wrong, and change course.
Look Across the Bridge Before You Take A Step
Part of the reason why we burn bridges is that we don’t look to see what’s on the other side.
We put ourselves in a negative situation with bad people and start to panic. Then we make rash decisions.
Looking back, I never really wanted to play on that sports team with a bunch of troglodytes.
Looking back, I didn’t want to work that soul-crushing office job. I would have been happier doing hard labor.
Looking back, I never really had a connection with those women I ghosted, I was just bored and wanted validation.
These are bridges I should have never walked across in the first place.
Ask yourself tough questions before you make a commitment of any kind.
Is this job going to be worth the money I get for it?
Is this friend or business partner really a trustworthy person?
Is this romantic interest actually enjoyable to be around?
When our decisions aren’t aligned with what our spirits tell us, we end up wasting time.
We end up hurting people, especially ourselves.
Look inside for guidance and look to God for answers.
Don’t let your emotions lead you to destruction.
Follow the rational way forward and reject the petty ankle-biters.
Be a part of the shift away from bridge burning and be the bigger person ALWAYS.
Find a way to come to some sort of amicable agreement and reach mutual closure if possible.
It is more possible than you think.
You can cross the bridge and let it stand. Just never look back. Simple as that.
In Peace and Power,
CJ