We’ve all seen those people. Or rather, we’ve heard them. In shops, in gyms, out and about on the street. Their voices are shrill, piercing, and incessant. They talk – LOUD – and they just don’t stop. They won’t even let a friend get a word in edgewise.
It’s a compulsion just like people use junk food or booze or any other vice. We just don’t discuss this because our culture is fixated on self-expression and emoting every little frickin thing we feel.
The people who engage in this behavior are sick in some form or another. If you recognize this pattern in yourself, it’s time to address it. Let’s dive in deeper.
Hot Air
“What are you really seeking from this interaction?” This is the question you need to ask when you encounter someone talking non-stop without a point in mind. Ask yourself this question if need be.
Are they looking for validation? Most people are so insecure that they need other people to say “yeah, really good idea, you’re totally right, the other person is wrong, blah blah blah”.
What kind of advanced person requires assurance that your thoughts or your feelings are legitimate? How the hell can you expect to get answers or explanations from a person who really has NO IDEA WHO YOU ARE?
Most people are looking for a little fucking PAT on the head so they can feel like a good boy and go about their day without crippling pain.
This brings up another point – your energy. Overtalking and oversharing are prime examples of ENERGY DISSIPATION. Got angst or feeling restless? Most people just dive into a dumb conversation and get lost in the weeds until they tire themselves out.
Guess what – talking about it ain’t doing NOTHING!
There’s energy running loose in the body that needs to be redirected and channeled towards something more useful. Locate the source of that energy and start working with it in a way that benefits you instead of just indulging your ego.
Because if you really wanted advice or support you’d shut up and listen right? You’d ask a question, zip your trap, and sit there and wait for the other person to offer some insight or a solution. You wouldn’t just keep BLABBING LIKE A GOON you’re red in the face.
Check Yourself
There’s a spiritual component to this compulsion to talk over everyone all the time. Your soul is yearning for something that it’s not getting. Your spirit is out of wack, misaligned in some way that compels you to shout, overshare, and poison the well for everyone else.
It might be time to reflect and figure out what’s really going on. Do some spiritual self-defense work and see where you’re being attacked, where your vulnerabilities are, where you need to bolster up.
I guarantee that if you sharpen your SPIRITUAL SWORD and get right with yourself in your heart and mind, you’ll be way less likely to blabber and meander in useless conversations with people throughout your life.
Rather than seeking validation and approval, you’ll get it from YOURSELF and you’ll get it from GOD. Rather than venting about problems and politics and heaps of other bullshit, you’ll take a breath, map out a plan, and actually FIX THE THINGS within your sphere of control.
This is a critical REFRAME and vital to your spiritual development – and material gain.
Silence is Truly Golden
Your words lose effect when they’re poorly chosen and overused. Your communication loses potency when you speak to others in looping, repetitive patterns.
Get comfortable with silence, and don’t worry about filling dead air. Once you recognize that silence is golden, you’ll start leveling up way faster in terms of your mental and spiritual health.
You’ll realize that oftentimes things are better left unsaid. You’ll be more resourceful in your non-verbal communication and express yourself through actions rather than hollow words. This is all part of the path towards being your best and highest self.
In the meantime, watch out for those fools blowing hot air in every direction, looking for pity or conflict. You’re better off without them, no doubt.
In Peace and Power,
CJ
